Nothing in life that’s worth it is
easy. Now this may not always be true but in most cases it tends to be. The
normal things like school, work, and just life in general are just not easy,
unless you’re a genius. This past weekend I went home for Valentine’s Day. Huck
and I had plans, nothing special just pizza and a movie at one of our houses
but I was really looking forward to it. As we all know, Virginia weather
doesn’t know what it’s doing…ever. It’s 50 degrees one day and blizzards that
night with little to no warning. So, unfortunately we had to leave Richmond a
day early and go back to school. It wasn’t easy (I’m not a fan of unexpected
change) but once we got here our plans still kind of happened and it was worth
it.
While I was home for the weekend I
went to visit my grandmother with my mom. The last few months have been full of
change with her, as she’s been moved around to different facilities within her
nursing home to better accommodate her needs. Over the last few years I’ve seen
my granny age, for a while I thought she never would. I had the thought that
she was 74 for like 10 years up until recently. My mom and her siblings take
care of what needs to be done or whatever my granny needs. I visit with her
when I can, which is not as often as it should be. She is losing her memory
with age, unable to walk as well and other things that make things just
different enough to be hard. My mom has asked me the last few times we’ve left
her room, “it isn’t easy is it?” Every time I just say, “No, it isn’t.” is it
worth it to go see her? Absolutely. Is it hard? Absolutely.
School is just a whole different
story. As soon as I think my classes are getting easy something happens. When I
think I’m finally done being home sick, something happens and I want to go
home. It’s never easy and when it is that just means something is going to
happen to make it hard. It kind of goes hand in hand with “nothing in life is
free.” People will argue that there are in fact free things but most likely
you’ve had to do something in order to obtain the free thing.
Things are hard right now. Being a
20 year old girl, in college, 3 hours away from home and some friends, 25
minutes away from 2 extremely busy friends, living with 3 girls and really not
knowing how your dream job is actually going to happen is HARD. For anyone who
says this time in life is easy, stop lying to yourself. Not just for you but
for everyone else around you. We need each other to get through the hard times
and you aren’t fooling anyone acting like everything is so ~easy~. Most of us
at this point in time are going to school, possibly also working, doing an
internship or looking for one, applying for grad school, masters, jobs,
programs, etc., family changes, becoming an actual adult and many other various
things that we just associate with life. Right now most of this stuff seems
pointless, you want to cry, scream, give up or blame other people for these day
to day hard things.
My boyfriend is a realist. I didn’t
believe him for a while, I thought he was truly just negative about a lot but
when I actually thought about the things going on around me, I realized he was
right. I’m happier now. Knowing that not everything is easy, things get hard,
life throws snow at you (I really hate snow now), and meltdowns will happen.
Get up, don’t look it as failures, get through the hard shit (excuse my
language) and look back the next day, week, month, or year from now and be able
to say “it was worth it.”
“People can do more than they ever believe they can do.
Physically, mentally, academically. You have to be pushed. It hurts. But it’s
worth it, and it’s a great thing.” Sugar Ray Leonard
"Golf
is the closest game to the game we call life. You get bad breaks from good
shots; you get good breaks from bad shots - but you have to play the ball where
it lies."
--
Bobby Jones
